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Forth Step – Timing Is Everything

Now, after self inquiry forgiveness and acceptance,  you can really get down to business.

The addiction will try to seduce, tempt, annoy you all the time. Wherever you go, you see a flashing sign that calls you:”Come and have little fun, its OK, its only for few minutes, come!”.

Most of you already knows that their are no short sessions. You practice your addiction for few minuets, and it becomes few hours, days and months.

The best time to stop the addiction is before it started, and it is always starting with a thought.

Be vigilant and ready. When the thought comes this is your chance. This is the timing. The challenge is right in front of you. This annoying thought is your golden opportunity to grow. Be happy that you caught the opportunity, cherish and respect it.

When the thought just raised, the impulse is still weak, the energy of the thought can be re-directed. However, if you choose to “ride” on this thought, and start thinking on the addiction subject, the “rewards” carried by the addiction, you are going into slippery slope. The thought gains enormous energy.

When the thought just begun its tiny stream in the field, put a little send pile in its way, and you can turn it to totally different direction. Wait a few minuets and ponder in the addiction subject a bit, and suddenly the tiny stream is becoming great rushing river. For turning this river to another direction now you need to build a dam and dig a canyon.

Seize the moment when the thought appears!


Fifth Step – Change Direction

Assuming that you caught the moment when thought appears, now you need to do the work. When you fully aware of the process of addiction the work is usually easy each time, but it must be repeated over and over.

What to do?

When you feel the little tickling of the addiction subject, stop and think. First remember what is the current motivation of this addiction, and say to yourself, I don’t need to go through all of this addiction-cycle, since I already have everything, and I can deal with everything with compassion.

For example, if you are alcohol-addicted since you want to forget your troubles, say to yourself “I accept the troubles”, I don’t need to runaway and bring more troubles. Have compassion towards yourself, and insert the troubles directly to your heart with love and compassion. If you are addicted to some kind of sex since it is satisfying an urge that you really don’t want, do not hide the urge. Do the opposite, fully accept the urge directly to your heart with compassion. Note that the urge is usually not the sex itself, the urge is usually something deeper, like urge to control, or urge to submission, fear, anger or some other feeling. The sex is only the way this urge is expressing out. Accept the urge in your heart, and you don’t need the sex.

In short accept the original cause, take it out of your closet and give it a place of honour in your heart.

Now, you can change direction.

Ask yourself what was I doing before this thought? if it was something important to you, continue with it. If you were not doing something important, or you were doing something that you want to stop, you can go back to your precious goals (I asked you to look for your goals in previous post). Ask yourself how can I develop my precious goals? What can I do now? If for example  its something physical that you build, you need not get to the physical work right now, you can plan it instead.

In the beginning your addiction can bother you hundreds times per day. Each time you must accept the original cause and change direction, use the energy of the thought that was inspired by the addiction.

Do not allow the addiction to take control even a single time, don’t give it your energy. Don’t play with with your addiction, it plays harder, you already experienced it many time.

If the above technique did not stopped the addiction, their are even more powerful techniques.

Sixth Step – Slow Down

The steps described in previous posts should handle most of the bothering thoughts.

However, you may encounter some highly persistent thoughts, or thoughts that were not caught at time. Still this is not end of the story.

You can now use the slowing down technique.

It is very simple, when you find out yourself flowing with the harmful thought slow it down. It is done just like stopping a fast car, you push on the breaks, and the thoughts slowing and slowing till complete stop. Then you can return to the steps described at previous posts.

Seventh Step – Envisage

If you need this technique it is a sign that all previous techniques failed, or you failed to catch the addiction-thought at the beginning.

Don’t despair, better late than never, try this powerful technique: envisage the future. What is going to happen if you continue with your addiction? you already know the suffering that awaits you. You already know that practicing addiction once make it much more difficult to heal it in the future. On the other hand envision what you can do with your time instead. Your true goals in life waiting for you.

Use this motivation, and practice the methods described for stopping the addiction.

It is Within Your Reach!!!

You can do it. You are powerful enough. You have sublime goals much more important than wasting your time & energy.

You can leave behind this addiction and start a new path. Many did it before.

Your addiction was just your steering sign to let you return to your real goal.

It served you well, you can start the long journey back, climbing out.

Thank you for reading this.

I wish you joy and fruitful life!